If you are having difficulty with your child’s behaviour at school, you can sometimes be at a loss of what to do about it. After all what can you do from a distance if you are not in the class? It is vital that the teacher knows how to use effective strategies of managing behaviour in the class, but you do have the power to make a difference if you work with the teacher. A teacher can not single out one child to give special attention or rewards so this is where you come in. While you can’t make a contribution in the class you can make a huge difference by doing certain things when they are at home. these principles are ideal for all ages of children just, however this example is aimed at the younger child and you can adapt it to suit your child's age.
If for instance the teacher says to you,” Your little Charlie won’t listen to a word I say and is always pushing the other children,” this is what I suggest that you do.
1 Make an appointment to see your child’s teacher in private without your child at a mutually convenient time.
2. When you see the teacher ask them what they see the problem as being. Lets say it’s Charlie won’t listen and pushes the other children.
3. Ask the teacher to work on one problem at a time with you, you might like to ask her which one. Lets use Listening to the teacher.
4. Tell the teacher that you will give Charlie some rules about listening when the teacher is talking and that you will show him how to do this when he is at home, by taking turns when others are talking and waiting for them to finish and encouraging hime to listen to you.
5. Ask the teacher to tell you each day how he has got on, particularily any improvements no matter how slight. Remember to ask the teacher for the best way to do this. She might use a home school diary or say that you can see her at the end of class on certain day’s or daily.
6. Ask the teacher if there is anything else that they would like you to do?
7. After the meeting talk to your child and explain some rules about listening in class, make this positive and point out something that they are doing well, such as the teacher says that you are really good at drawing. You could say that the teacher would like you to sit and listen some more and how great it would be to show the teacher just how good you are at sitting and listening.
8. Use some form of praise and rewards system to encourage this good behaviour, ie sticker charts. When you get a positive response from the teacher that your child has listened more, you can give lots of verbal praise and perhaps a reward such as a trip to the park on the way home or a sticker to show how pleased you are.
9. As you see improvements and the teacher says that the problem is solved or very much better, you can talk again with the teacher about any other issues.
This method will help to focus on the behaviour that you want from your child which encourages more of that behaviour and makes your child more willing to cooperate.
Resource: http://www.isnare.com/?aid=422054&ca=Parenting
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